Are you having tons of wild and crazy sex? Yes, no, maybe, while doing handstands, or all of the above? No, don’t tell me, I’ll tell you.
The Sunday Times sex survey has had a good rummage around in the drawers of South Africans of all races, colours and genders, to see what we’ve been getting up to in the boom-chicka-wa-wa department.
I have the results right here, so I could tell you how often you masturbate, who you’re really thinking about while you have sex, or how many of you like anal – and name names. But while I was poring through the results, something else grabbed me by the short and curlies.
I expect to see that 35% of you masturbate every week, or that the good old vibrator is the most popular sex toy, with only 5.4% of you citing butt plugs. And I expect that women are better equipped to deal with a sexual drought than men, none of this is really news. It’s the responses I didn’t expect that are more interesting.
Did you know that in South Africa, 41 to 50 year olds have more sex than any other age group? Closely followed by 50 to 65 year olds.
It’s unexpected news, I was having way more sex in my 20s and 30s than I am now. I want to know who in our age range is bringing up the statistics. Is it all those Africa Burners? I checked out this demographic in the queue at Woolies yesterday, and again at the post office and Dischem, it really doesn’t look like any of them are getting it at all, let alone more than Millennials.
Or maybe Millennials spend so much time growing their own granola, longboarding to work and searching out the perfect jaunty hat and artisanal bread, that they don’t have as much time for sex as we did at their age, and so we’ve managed to overtake them on the inside corner?
The next surprising statistic might provide some insight into the previous one. Married couples have double the amount of sex than singles and more sex than those in relationships too. And there I thought married people went through that whole less sex thing, and therefore needed more porn, disillusionment, passive-aggressive road rage, wine and divorce.
But the truth according to these new stats, is that singles are sexually unhappy right now, with a score that comes in way below the national average. Which is surprising in this age of Tinder, the internet, high performance condoms and the acceptability of random hookups. We haven’t been this poised for fun, chandelier-swinging sex with strangers since Mick Jagger first put on leather pants, and yet here we are.
And when it comes to where all this older-folk sex is taking place, more surprises. The Western Cape outsexes all provinces, followed by KZN, with Gauteng bringing up the rear (not literally, only 14% of you have anal sex, and then only on special occasions).
Females are more open–minded than men when it comes to BDSM. Although I suspect that’s a function of the fifty shades phenomenon.
And in the category of bizarre, in response to the question, which of these fantasies do you fancy the most? 4.5% admit to fantasising about sleeping with their partner’s sibling, 27% copped to fantasising about a liaison with a colleague in the photocopy room. 31% of you are fantasising about group sex, and a massive 36.7% of South Africans are fantasising about ‘an excursion to a farmyard’. What the actual hell does that even mean? No judgies, but what is wrong with you people?
I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that there are all these peculiarities in sex. Sex itself is one massive hard on wrapped in a bunch of anomalies. The only question I did think was missing from the survey though was, ‘How honest are you when you answer sex surveys?’